No one intentionally wants to hurt another. Unfortunately, it happen, but we need to understand the deeper reasons that are not apparent at first glance. When you look more closely, you may discover that people hurt others because they have been hurt themselves. This is where the ping-pong between people begins – the game of egos – who is stronger and who is weaker. But if we let go of all this, we are left with the understanding that no one wishes harm; rather, those who hurt are victims of their own unconscious behavior, without even realizing it.
This leads to a division into two groups. The first group consists of people who tend to live outwardly – they become accusatory and judgmental of others. In summary, they become dominant, believing they are the only ones who know how “things really work” or “how things really are.” The second group consists of those who become self-blaming and constantly try to prove to others that “they are not the way others see them.” Both groups continually expand themselves – the first by putting others down and the second by putting themselves down. In this way, they overload themselves with activities to constantly prove this position to themselves and others, again and again. Eventually, both end up burned out, with varying degrees of health problems, and in any case, self-destructively.
If the True Self does not emerge from these processes and intervene, burnout is guaranteed. Fortunately, to alleviate this (though not to permanently get rid of it), people go to the gym, the movies, a restaurant, fall into addictions, or engage in excessive consumption. Regardless of the temporary relief method, the root cause does not disappear until it is recognized, and conscious countermeasures are taken to finally break free from automatic reactions that are emotional and mental.
Understanding all of this – that no one intentionally wishes harm to another – leads to a point where you no longer want to bring more pain into the world or cause it because even the amount that currently exists is already too much, and there is no need to cause more pain to anyone.
As a result, you find that you want to give instead – to give more so that people feel good, so there is no pain that blinds, no evil that keeps us trapped in a vicious cycle, but rather goodness where everyone can rely on each other’s unique qualities and strengths. Wouldn’t that be wonderful?
In this way, we all stand side by side, where no one is better or worse than anyone else – we are as one, supporting and relying on each other. We are as one, undifferentiated from – nothing is missing here. In this way, you do not hurt anyone, nor do you trample on anyone’s head, nor do you let anyone else do this to you. Thus, you can support others and be supported yourself, because no one can take anything away from you or give anything extra, for you already have everything. This is how you discover yourself.
This is how each of us can give, being the center of that giving, offering what you have. Those who have kind words to say, speak it. Those who have money to donate, donate it. Those who have food to share, share it. Without holding on to what has never belonged to them.
Even if someone does something bad to you, you do not get hurt because it does not reach you, for you are protected by the knowledge that no one wishes harm to another. Thus, there is no need to identify yourself or consider yourself strong because there is no need to be strong – strength arises from the lack of it. And there is no need to be weak, for that too does not exist.